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Have a Crush on Someone at Work? Read This Before Making Your Move

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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and the feeling of love surrounds us, rendering us hopeless romantics, even if for just a moment. When you think about your special someone, who is it that comes to mind? If you are currently in a consensual relationship, planning the day can be exhilarating, from coordinating dinner plans to purchasing that extra-large box of chocolates. However, if you have romantic feelings for a co-worker, making your move in a professional business setting can be a bit more complex. Before you approach your crush in the office, please review the below tips.

1. Understand Workplace Policies. The Code of Conduct in your workplace may include variations from your previous place of employment, so be aware of the rules and regulations of your current workplace.

2. When in Doubt, Speak to HR. If you are unsure of whether sending a care package, romantic note or pursuing an individual is appropriate, do not hesitate to discuss the matter with your HR Department. It is best to air on the side of caution before engaging in any relations.

3. Do Not Make Someone Feel Uncomfortable. If you decide to ask someone on a date, be sure to give them the space to decline or modify your invitation, if they should so choose. Whether the answer is no or yes, keep your attitude and approach professional. If the answer is no, be sure to respect your co-worker’s wishes and do not ask again.

4. Think Long Term. Consider whether your love-interest is someone that you can see a future with, or if the attraction is purely chemical. This is important because should the relationship end, you will still see this individual around the office. Be sure that this relationship is worth pursuing prior to making your move.

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-Dina Barabash, NASBA Content Development & Web Specialist